We have very little, maybe none whatsoever, control on how things will turn out and how people around us will will behave in any given set of circumstances. We hardly know how we are going to react or respond, let alone how others will react. We can guess, projects past responses, and create a probable hypothesis, but in reality we do not know anything for sure.
So how do we deal with situations that are well, no to our liking? Here are some pointers that have worked for me, not all the time of course, but 80% of the time. The times these tips have not worked are the times I was not able to apply them as either anger or impatience got better of me. Then I guess it is right to assume that if applied, these tips can work 100% of the time. How can I be sure? I will tell you once you have read these tips.
1. Pause. When things are not going the way you want, take a deep breath, hold it for a few seconds, let go and relax your body. Do it a few times till you can feel your breathing become even and deep on its own. This is especially helpful when you are in middle of a clash or argument. Suddenly, just pause. It helps.
2. Get grounded in the present. If you are feeling overwhelmed in your life, get into the habit of reminding yourself to focus on the present. Every time you get this feeling of being overwhelmed, sit back, relax your shoulders (rotate or shrug), and focus on a far away point for some time. Now look around you and see where you are right now and what is available to you right now. Let the future take care of itself.
3. Create a God jar. Or Universe jar. Or Harry Potter jar. Take an empty bottle. Put a label on it that says "The __________ jar". Put the name of whoever you have faith in, maybe your mom/dad, any angels, whoever, in the blank space. I have named mine simply "The God Jar". You can call it anything. Now write on a piece of paper any issue that you want to be taken care of. Surrender that issue to the jar. And forget about it. It will be taken care of. Let go of the concern. Someone will take care of it. Trust. And let go. Or even better, "let god".
4. Release. This is especially great for releasing negative emotions like anger, jealousy, fear, anxiety, and all things toxic. Sit down and write a letter to the issue ir the towards which your emotion is directed. Write till you are exhausted or till you feel lighter. Now burn it! We don't want read this again or let anybody else read it right? As the letter burns, let go of that negativity too.
5. Laugh, Dance, Sleep! Get back to the basics! If you are feeling low, try these time honoured ways to lift your spirits and open a new window.
So how do we deal with situations that are well, no to our liking? Here are some pointers that have worked for me, not all the time of course, but 80% of the time. The times these tips have not worked are the times I was not able to apply them as either anger or impatience got better of me. Then I guess it is right to assume that if applied, these tips can work 100% of the time. How can I be sure? I will tell you once you have read these tips.
1. Pause. When things are not going the way you want, take a deep breath, hold it for a few seconds, let go and relax your body. Do it a few times till you can feel your breathing become even and deep on its own. This is especially helpful when you are in middle of a clash or argument. Suddenly, just pause. It helps.
2. Get grounded in the present. If you are feeling overwhelmed in your life, get into the habit of reminding yourself to focus on the present. Every time you get this feeling of being overwhelmed, sit back, relax your shoulders (rotate or shrug), and focus on a far away point for some time. Now look around you and see where you are right now and what is available to you right now. Let the future take care of itself.
3. Create a God jar. Or Universe jar. Or Harry Potter jar. Take an empty bottle. Put a label on it that says "The __________ jar". Put the name of whoever you have faith in, maybe your mom/dad, any angels, whoever, in the blank space. I have named mine simply "The God Jar". You can call it anything. Now write on a piece of paper any issue that you want to be taken care of. Surrender that issue to the jar. And forget about it. It will be taken care of. Let go of the concern. Someone will take care of it. Trust. And let go. Or even better, "let god".
4. Release. This is especially great for releasing negative emotions like anger, jealousy, fear, anxiety, and all things toxic. Sit down and write a letter to the issue ir the towards which your emotion is directed. Write till you are exhausted or till you feel lighter. Now burn it! We don't want read this again or let anybody else read it right? As the letter burns, let go of that negativity too.
5. Laugh, Dance, Sleep! Get back to the basics! If you are feeling low, try these time honoured ways to lift your spirits and open a new window.- Put on your favourite foot tapping number and dance! No thinking, no analysis, just let go. When the spirit feels lights, new doors open.
- Take out your joke books or go to the internet and find good jokes and laugh. Get your favourite comedy and watch it.
Laughing allows to stop thinking and over-thinking, gives your being a break, and gives you the boost of energy to find solutions.
- And this is a personal favorite, sleep! I have had this practice since I was a child that if things around me are sad or stifling, or just out of control, then I need to put them out of focus for a while and go to sleep.
I had a firm belief that when I will get up, something would have changed - I would have found a solution, mustered up the courage, or, the situation or my perspective, would have changed. And therefore, that's what happened.
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